The Marriage Union
It has been justly observed that the woman was not made from the superior part of man that she might not be thought to be above him, nor from any inferior part as to be below him.
So allow me to observe that she was not taken from his head, that she might not be supposed to reign over him; nor from his eyes, that she might not be supposed to see from him nor diligently search for his imperfections; nor from his ears, that she might not be supposed to listen to false accusations against him; nor from his mouth, for fluent as she may be in speech, she is not to be her husband’s spokesman.
Furthermore, she was not taken from his arms or hands, for she is not to fight his battles for him; nor from the front of his body, for she is not to fight his battles for him; nor from the front of his body, for she is not to be set at the front of dangers and difficulties; nor from his back for she is not to be treated with contempt, and set behind him; nor from his legs or thighs, for she is not to bear the principal part of his burdens; nor from his feet, for she is not to be trampled upon by him.
She is to be taken out of his side, and from one of his ribs, that she might appear to be equal to him, and from a part near his heart and under his arms to show that she should be affectionately loved by him and be always under his care and protection.
A wife is not to be tyrannized over by her husband nor made into a slave, much less to be abandoned by a sensual pleasure-seeking husband. No, beloved, she is designed by the providence of God to be a help meet for her husband: “For the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him.” (Galatians 2:18) And if so, there is to be freedom and familiarity between a man and his wife, and there should be a mutual concern for each other’s real welfare.
Strictly speaking, their concerns are one and demand a oneness of care and attention; and as far as either husbands or wives act contrary to this, they violate the laws of God and dishonour their own persons.
– William Gadsby